Will You Have Buyer’s Remorse When You Buy a Home?
By Sandy Wallace, Realtor, Keller Williams Realty – Santa Cruz CA
First of all this is not buyer’s remorse discrimination sellers have it too. So let’s agree to call it “real estate remorse.” This is a life changing event you are about to move to or from your home. This is what happens as soon as you sign a contract. You lie awake thinking how can I get out of this, what have I done, I don’t want to move. The buyer thinks I paid too much the seller think they could have squeezed more out of the buyer. Then the opposite happens you get excited thinking about oh I have finally found my dream home and I am so ready to move in and make changes. And again you go back to oh what have I done I can’t do all that work on the house and what if I don’t get the loan or I can’t make the payment. This is real estate remorse at its finest.
With a purchase or sale of hundreds of thousands of dollars you are going to have emotional swings, it’s a roller coaster ride! You should always want, need and desire something in life? Let’s not let the focus be on money alone. Think of money as the means to have something you need, want and desire.
So let’s talk about it and not fall victim to it so that it stops you from making a move.
You have a vision for your life and you want to live it after you close the deal.
When someone says to me, “I want to buy or sell a home!” I purposely listen to and encourage you to make a list of all your dreams. What is your current lifestyle and what do you like about it, what would you change? Then just do the math how much will it cost you to go there. I have a saying, “It’s good to want!” You have want before you can have. You have created a vision that you want to be your life so let’s live it. This is not my saying, and it is true this life is not a destination it’s a journey. Oh I have to throw this saying in that my mother has hanging on my wall. “This life is not a dress rehearsal!”
I will ask you to write down 5 things that you must have and 5 things that would be deal breakers. If you are married do this separately and bring it to our first meeting. Nobody gets everything that they want and it’s good to leave something for later in the vision of your life.
You will be going through a lot of inspections, reports, and the contract has dates and deadlines that can have you second guessing your decision. To stay focused on your vision and the decision you made, take out this list compare it to the home that you are in contract on. Unless there is a true reason for concern, your state of mind might be just be “real estate remorse.”
Telling your friend and family that you are moving might bring on real estate remorse.
It is not uncommon that they will question your choice of what you paid for the home or the price you are selling it for.
When we first meet we talk about everything you wanted in buying or selling your home and that includes the price. I showed you many homes to buy and you choose this one based on the market value of what it will appraise for. If you are selling and you get questioned about the price remember we talked about the homes that have already sold that compare to yours.
Your friends and family mean well they want to compare it to their life. Ask yourself do they know the market? Have they been in the market or are they even in the same state? They might even be in an area where a home costs a fraction of what you can expect to pay in beautiful Santa Cruz CA. Oh and if it’s your first time buying or selling a home and it’s your parents just face it parent’s never think that it’s good enough for their children.
How does this decision make you feel?
This is a life choice and it is based on facts and logic and it is also about your gut feeling. Your gut is sometimes smarter than your brain. When you wake up at night thinking about this are you listening to the news about how good or bad the real estate market is? Can you feel the deference that this move will make is it a feeling of your well-being, peacefulness and feeling secure. So before you let real estate remorse set in, weigh your alternatives and see how they make you feel. How do you expect this move to change the way you feel? If you are doing a short sale how does it feel to be out of debt and free of this under water home verse feeling anxious about having to get another job to make the mortgage or spending all your savings to live in the house? What if you are buying a fixer upper and you feel like you can’t afford to fix it the way you want to? Does that feel bad like you will always be living in a less than desirable home or can you manage to do the work and fell that you have created a master piece.
You can manage own mind.
You may have started this whole idea of buying or selling your home because you were sick of paying rent to a landlord. You may have had it with the way the neighbors made noise all night and had a ton of people living at the house next to you. Now that you are dealing with the lenders asking you to prove that you were really born and that you have a mother you are thinking you had a good landlord or the neighbors’ music is good and loud. You have just managed your mind set and have fallen into the trap of constant discontent. You have the all common syndromes of the grass is always greener on the other side.
So I have a saying for that, “STOP IT! If you truly want to have the life you have envisioned, you have to manage your mind set. Make up your own mind instead of listening to others that are unhappy and make a list of what you are happy and grateful about. Try making a list of 10 things a day for a month without repeating anything. When you practice being grateful with this much focus you will not be able to dwell on regret and discontent.
Create a win-win situation
You may wake up at night feeling like you are not getting a good deal that something has come up in the home inspection that you don’t like. Instead of worrying about it talk to your realtor and brainstorm on the best way to handle it. The realtor can negotiate on your behalf and that is what works to make it a win-win for both buyer and seller. This transaction is between the buyer and seller not the real estate agents.
By now you know I have a saying for that, “If it’s not one thing then it’s the same thing.” I am giving you advance notice that your transaction will have hiccups and unexpected things that come up. Stay focused on the whole deal and the close so you do not miss something that is important. When you have an issue it is best to address it right away and create a win-win situation. This is an example of a situation that I would prepare you for.
Let’s say that you are buying the home as is and as disclosed, that means you do your due diligence and have any and all inspections and reports done and complete before you release your contingencies in writing. In this example the seller is also selling the property as is and as disclosed so let’s say it is the bank that is selling and you discover mold in the bathroom. You have a home inspection and it is written in the report. You get 2-3 estimates on the cost of removing all the mold from the home. Your Realtor will present this to the seller as a request for repairs. You will hear back from the seller that they will either lower the price or remove the mold before close of escrow. Great so you have a win-win situation you still get to buy this house and it will be repaired before you move in. If the bank did not work with you on this situation they would have to disclose it to the next buyers or fix it and sell it again.
Do the math.
I will always sit you down with you at the very beginning and go over what it will take to get you everything you need, want and desire. I did loans for many years before I sold homes so I can give you the numbers of the cost of sale. Then you need to add in who-what- when- where and WHY. When you do this for yourself it will make it a reality and not just a dream.
Make sure you go into this process clear on what is a sustainable range on monthly housing costs for you and your family based on the total picture of your income and expenses rather than expecting someone else to figure this out for you.
This way when it come to the loan process that is going to scrutinizing your past, future and want your first born child you will be able to stand up to them and say I have already done the numbers this is what I can afford. Some loans allow you to spend between 45 -50% of your income on all your debts. Ask yourself if you can feed, clothe, educate and entertain yourself and others on what is left?
These are some of the normal signs of real estate remorse.
Here are the first things that you think about after you have signed the contract to buy your home.
1. How can I get out of the contract and get my initial deposit back?
2. What if someone else gets this home because I offered to little?
3. What if my friends say they could have gotten a better deal?
4. Am I paying too much?
5. Will the appraisal come out?
6. Can I get a loan?
7. Can I make the mortgage payments, taxes and insurance?
8. What if another home comes on the market that is better?
9. Is there going to be something wrong that I don’t know about until after I have bought the home?
Here are the same signs of real estate remorse that the seller goes through when they sign the listing and when they sign and accept a buyer’s offer.
1. If my Realtor doesn’t bring me a full price offer with no contingencies then I will not have to sell?
2. I should have priced it higher they will probably try to low ball me.
3. I should have asked for more money from the buyers so I could retire sooner.
4. What have I done I do not want to sell this home I have suddenly fallen in love with it all over again. They call me up and say Sandy I have some bad news we don’t want to sell our home my wife loves it, we have taken the sign out of the ground.
5. We don’t have a place to move?
6. Will we be able to afford to buy another home?
7. How are we going to tell our friends and family we are moving?
8. What if the buyers back out after we have done all this work on the house?
9. What if the buyers find something wrong with the house and we have to lower the price?
10. What if we have an earthquake and I don’t have earthquake insurance?
I can’t resist here is another saying, none thing is for sure but death and taxes. Sorry.
I want to help you have a pleasant experience when buying or selling a home.
Call Sandy Wallace, Realtor Keller Williams Realty – Santa Cruz CA
Santacruzcaproperties.com
831-818-7099
Seesandy4homes@gmail.com